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Rest in Peace....

My uncle Richard passed away this morning at 1:22am CST at the age of 47 from pancreatic cancer.

We knew this was coming. His doctors had the whole family called and I drove to Baylor and back (3 hour trip each way) on Sunday afternoon when I had to be at work at 6am Monday morning.

Several months back, I wrote a post in which I described his incredible weight loss and how bad he looked....I had no idea. None.

When I went to visit this Sunday, I almost did not recognize him. He quite literally looked like a Holocaust survivor. I have never in my life seen anyone look like he did. It was beyond terrible.

He was in so much pain by that point that they had him on 60mg of Dilaudid per *hour* and he never woke up to speak to us. As far as I know, he spoke to my aunt the day before, on Saturday and that was the last time he was coherent. He got progressively weaker and finally died this morning.

It's....odd. I knew this was coming and had prepared for it, but still. It was very difficult this morning to keep my composure when Mom was already.....her usual self. I was a little irritated with myself because I was quite weepy all day at work today.

Anyway, family is flying in and he's being brought back to his hometown to be buried in the same cemetery as his mother, grandparents, great-grandparents and great-great grandparents (yes, we've been in this town a very long time).

I guess that's it tonight...not much energy to do anything right now.




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Jul. 31st, 2008 06:15 am (UTC)
I remember you mentioning him a few months ago. 47 is just way too young, isn't it?

And what a long, sad way to die. Sudden accidents are terrible and shocking to those left behind, but, really, at least it's quick.

My condolences to you and your family.

Aug. 1st, 2008 10:51 pm (UTC)
Thank you, I really appreciate that.

You're right, this has been a difficult time and honestly, today has been a nightmare. The family night viewing is in an hour and we'll leave soon to go, but the whole evening last night and all today, extended relations have been snipping and griping at each other. It's been awful.

Half aren't speaking to someone, who's not speaking to someone *else* and logistics have been terrible, due to times changing more than once and no one really taking charge of anything. On top of that, the funeral is tomorrow at 1pm and it was 105F today. I'm really ready for this to be over.
Jul. 31st, 2008 11:27 am (UTC)
my sympathies for your loss. cancer is so terrible, and it doesn't just devastate the victim, but his entire family as well...
Aug. 1st, 2008 10:56 pm (UTC)
Yes. My grandmother died of cancer as well, but she didn't deteriorate physically like Richard did. Pancreatic cancer is so aggressive and has such a devastating effect on the patient, that it really just stunned us all.

Though, we went to the funeral home today and saw him and they really did an excellent job. He's still so terribly thin, of course, but he doesn't look horrifying, like he did in his last days at the hospital, which I'm very, very grateful for.
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